Have you ever done something that made you feel so good inside that you can't seem to get it off your mind-it just keeps replaying over and over so that you constantly seem to have a silly grin on your face? Well, I can certainly say that is my case. I have helped two lovely people achieve their goal of becoming parents and it feels really good knowing that I did so. Baby boy was a long-time project for them but now their time has finally come. He is now where he belongs. The past few days have been a whirlwind but I will try to remember the details as best as I can.
First off, it all started at the OB office this past Wednesday (12/26-11am). I had been having contractions before I got there that seemed to be 4-6 min. apart but then they had pretty much stopped when I arrived at the office. My regular OB had just resigned that past Friday so we were a bit nervous to see who the new OB would be. It turned out to be perfect. Our new doctor was fun and outspoken. She supported us wholeheartedly and we enjoyed her demeanor. She checked me and I was between 3-4 cm/70% effaced. We were offered the opportunity to go ahead to the hospital at that point. That thrilled us so we headed on over and got checked in (the hospital is just a 3-4 min. drive away). As I was dealing with someone from the hospital to get my paperwork done, my water decided to break a little bit. I am so glad it waited until I was there! The OB showed up a little later to check me out and then she decided to break the floodgates even more. I began having pretty good contractions after that. I chose to labor through them naturally. They had all kinds of cool things to help me cope with the pain-a jacuzzi tub, a rocking chair and a birthing ball. My nurses were fabulous too!
Later that evening, my cervix began to stall at 6cm. My OB decided to help me along by putting me on pitocin. I believe that was around 5pm. I got into the jacuzzi and breezed through the pain for awhile. Unfortunately, I ended up getting too hot because I stayed in there so long. I got back into bed and felt nauseated. It really didn't help that I was starving by that point, lol. They let me have a smoothie and some crackers. At some point after that, I got checked and the OB was worried about the baby being sunny-side-up (face up instead of face down). That is never a good thing as it makes labor/delivery much more difficult. I ended up asking for an epidural after 10pm that night. It just all became too much pain to take. I must say though that it was wonderful laboring naturally for 12 hours beforehand. I didn't do that with either of my own kids (I got the epi immediately with both of them, lol) so it was cool to feel labor for once. It was definitely a miraculous thing to experience.
Anyhoo, my epidural wasn't exactly the best. I could still feel everything. It just made things a bit duller than before. I began pushing sometime around 11:30pm and it was extremely exhausting. They had my hubby play tug-o-war with me using a blanket so that I would push involuntarily. I hated that! After Clayton trying to pull my hands off, I told them I didn't want to play that game any more. He then moved up to my side so that he could coach me through to the end. Baby boy was born after an hour of pushing. It was really hard for me to deliver because I could actually feel him coming out. That was a new experience for me and let me tell ya, it isn't painless, lol.
On to the good stuff-Baby boy came out looking like a C-Section baby because he was so perfect. His head was perfectly rounded and his skin tone was good. I was so proud and I know that the parents were too! You guys won't believe this but my IM got to deliver her own child. It was so cool. They got her all suited up and she caught baby boy as he was delivered. She then cut the cord and took him down to the nursery for his first bath. Cool, huh? How often does a mother get to watch and then deliver her own biological child? :)
So that is the story in a nutshell. I am so glad that I have had the opportunity to do this and I am elated that I helped create a family. I have had a lot of people ask me recently if I was bothered to see baby boy go home. My answer is a definite no. I knew from the beginning that the child was not mine and that he had loving biological parents waiting for him. I have stayed detached and it doesn't make me sad to see him go. Being a gestational carrier was my purpose and it is now completed. I have no regrets at all. If they decide to try for a sibling for baby boy, I am totally onboard with them.
Baby boy was born just after midnight today. I had a fabulous experience but I will have to wait and update when I get my laptop (I forgot it at home). Stay tuned!
BTW-He was a surprising 9lb. 2oz. What a big guy!!
Here's a few monster ones on my neighbor's roof.
This is the big window in our foyer. You can see Clayton's icicle lights strung from the gutters and then the real icicles over top of the lights. Cool, huh?
We have gotten a lot of snow since last Friday (~7 inches is still in my backyard) and we are getting more tonight. I thought that having snow would be wonderful until I realized that life continues to go on here regardless of the snowfall. It really stinks. When I see snow, I think of snow days back in NC where the whole town shuts down and you can sit around with a cup of hot cocoa by the fire. Having even 2 inches meant that school was out and everything was closed. Man I am really going to miss that. I abhor going out in the snow to take Hayden to school. It doesn't really help that my 4-Runner is only 2 wheel drive. We have never needed 4 wheel drive or snow tires until now. Geez....
Cousin Renae tagged me for a fun quiz so here are my answers:
1. Wrapping paper or gift bags? I like to do both. The mix looks good under the tree.
2. Real trees or artificial? We have an artificial tree. I am allergic to real ones.
3. When do you put up your Christmas tree? The weekend after Thanksgiving.
4. When do you take your tree down? I like to take it down the day after Christmas. Sometimes we let it slide until New Year's though.
5. Do you like eggnog? Yes. Our milk man brings us the most delicious nog ever straight from the dairy. Yummy!!
6. Favorite gift received as a child? I remember getting my first real telephone from my Aunt Judy and I thought that was soooo cool. I was finally able to lock myself in my room and talk to my friends all day long without even having to get out of bed, lol. I think that I was 11 years old.
7. Do you have a nativity scene? No.
8. Hardest person to buy for? Emerson-he doesn't really seem to like anything unless Hayden tells him what he likes, lol.
9. Easiest person to buy for? Clayton-he loves getting gifts and it is usually pretty easy for me to get him something good.
10. Worst Christmas gift you ever got? A luggage bag. My parents bought me one when I was in middle school and I was less than impressed, lol.
11. Christmas cards or e-mail Christmas Cards? I mail them every year.
12. Favorite Christmas movie? A Christmas Story-you'll shoot your eye out!
13. When do you start shopping for Christmas? August
14. Have you ever recycled a Christmas present? Not that I can think of.
15. Favorite things to eat at Christmas? Cranberry Bliss Bars from Starbucks, Hickory Farms cheeseballs and smoked sausage, Aunt Judy's peanut butter balls, Christmas cookies, Christmas candy, etc.
16. Clear light or colored light? We have colored on our tree for the kiddos. If it were up to me they would be white. Clayton fought me tooth and nail on that one and I let him win. He says that because the icicle lights are white that the tree needs to be in color so that it stands out in our front window. I can see his point.
17. Angel on top or Star? We have a cute red star on top.
Now who am I going to tag??
1. Krista 2. Joanna 3. Rhea
This is my best friend Tracy. I miss her incredibly. I forsee a trip back to Asheville soon so that I can see that new baby of hers. ;)
These are my first 2 ultrasounds for this surrogacy when there were 2 babies. They were done back in May.
These were my first positive tests from the surrogacy. I began getting faint positives at what would be the equivalent of 8 days past ovulation and got my first digital positive at 8.5 days past.
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